In this video Eckhart Tolle, author of the books ‘The Power of Now’ and ‘A New Earth’ shows us why it is in most cases pointless to complain about other people.
The first example he uses is a letter he reads out where a woman has been lied to by her boyfriend repeatedly.
Eckhart goes on to say that the woman’s ego is having the problem because the ego sees it personally: ‘He lied to me’
In reality the man was just acting to his current level of consciousness, he probably lies to everyone, because that is where he is at right now.
She was not singled out, that was just her egoic interpretation.
The heaviness disappears if we take nothing personally.
Eckhart uses an example of some people taking everything personally, for instance even driving in traffic, when someone cuts you off and you take it personally, of course the other person does not know you enough to do that.
Of course the ego loves that kind of thing because then it can complain that it had been done to me.
And the more that you complain that it had been done to ‘me’ the stronger the ‘me’ get’s.
And that’s the danger.
It is very satisfying to the ego to complain about others, how the transgressed or had done something or not done something, all of the time the ego is getting bigger and feeling righteous.
The world is full of people who don’t do what they should be doing according to your mind.
We could spend a great deal of time complaining about others, but it is not productive and it will never bring you to true peace.
By not complaining it’s a wonderful opportunity for each of us to become more conscious, but to just accept that others are doing things at their current level and it is not personal, at all, even when it feels as if it is.
We can still take whatever action we need to take, but just doing it without complaining shrinks the ego and brings peace to our lives.
Enjoy the video.